Nobody said that understanding toddlers is easy. I mean even though I am a mother of two kids and the younger one being a toddler; the thought “it’s just a phase” is the only thing keeps me going. But a phase is called a phase, only after it’s passed. Until then, you are there, in that particular situation without an exit. It’s a daily struggle.
Even though the mothering experience with my first child comes handy quite a lot but most of the times I am winging it. My toddler is very vocal about his likes and dislikes. He is very expressive and emotional. Every day I am trying to understand what’s going on in his mind.
My toddler is 3 years old right now. At this stage, I am noticing that my toddler is developing into a physically dexterous, verbally competent and emotionally expressive individual. I am also noticing some tremendous intellectual, social and emotional changes in him.
From my experience, let me tell you what all is happening with my toddler and you might notice the similar developments in your 2 to 3 years handful little one.
Becoming Independent
At this age, your naughty and handful toddler is becoming more aware of other people, events and happenings around him. He would like to think that he has become capable of doing things on his own. Pouring water from the jug, using paints, balancing himself on the chair or stool, jumping off the small heights, etc. are just a few examples. However, we all know how it ends all the time. Water getting spilt, paint smudges all over on the floor, falling off the heights, etc.
Becoming independent
Even though he is trying to explore his limits with the best of his abilities, he might just end up in trouble and would need your help. So, try to be watchful and keep an eye on him so he doesn’t land himself in some serious trouble.
Outbursts of Love
Outbursts of Love
This will come as a surprise to you. Your toddler, who is trying to be independent, is also going to delight you and other family members with sudden outbursts of affection, endearing tight & clingy hugs, irresistible grins and highly infectious laughter. But that’s not it. He is trying to be like you and going to copy you verbatim in his own blabber. Be equally spontaneous, attentive and responsive. Now, sit back and enjoy!
Also read Emotional Development in Toddlers
Focus on Positives
Focus on Positives
“NO” – gear up to hear it more than you say it. It may be because this is one of the words your toddler hears most from the grown-ups around him. Try to rephrase some of your answers with simple choices or make it sound funny so that it directly doesn’t sound like a “no”. For example, do you want to wear your pants first or your t-shirt?
Reinforce positive behaviour with plenty of praise. Also, remember that when your toddler says “no”, it’s also a reflection of his growing sense of self. That’s his way of learning what it means to be an independent person. Fascinating, isn’t it?
Your child needs your unconditional love, guidance and reassurance. In any situation, always remember who is the adult and who can retain their sense of balance as you are growing and learning together in this journey of your kid’s childhood and your parenthood.
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