The first moral value lesson that we learn from our parents and give our children is the “Five Golden Rules”. Right from the moment they start talking, all we teach them is to say “thank you”. Gratitude, that’s the first lesson we learn as kids and teach our kids. However, as we grow and other feelings and emotions take precedence naturally. We forget to apply those golden rules when it comes to us mothers. We don’t remember to use the same five golden rules in our daily life.
Five Golden Rules For Moms
Mothers spend their whole lives in bringing up their children and trying to make them good human beings. In the whirlwind of life, you tend to forget your needs and needs of the family become a constant priority.
Here’s a gentle reminder of the same golden rules that you taught your children, but now it’s your turn to apply them in your life too.
Sorry –
“I am sorry but I don’t feel like talking about this. I don’t want to be a part of any negative discussion.” Easy, right? There can be so many situations where you don’t to be present or don’t want to talk about anything that doesn’t make sense to you.
Politely excuse yourself and distance yourself from any topic or discussion that affects you negatively. It might feel like that you’ll be left out or miss on the whole discussion. That’s where you have to draw the line and decide what’s good for you.
Thank You –
Thank the universe for everything that you have.
Gratitude reduces a multitude of toxic emotions, ranging from envy and resentment to frustration and regret. Other studies have shown that gratitude reduces social comparisons. For years, research has shown gratitude not only reduces stress, but it may also play a major role in overcoming trauma. Recognizing all you have to be thankful for – even during the worst times of your life – fosters resilience.
Please –
Don’t shy away from asking for help.
“Will you please help me?” – That’s all you have to ask.
We think that we are mothers and we have superpowers. But at the end of the day, we are humans and we may need help with so many things – household, kids, etc. It’s okay to reach out for help.
Excuse Me –
“Excuse me, I need some time for myself. Can we do this later?” – Take a break. You deserve it!
It may look hard and feel really difficult to ignore what’s happening around you. However, distancing yourself for some time can make you feel recharged and energised.
Unwind and relax. Take a coffee break, listen to your favourite music, pick up the book you left reading in the middle, draw a bath for yourself or take a long shower.
May I –
“May I talk about something I have been feeling?”
Talk about your feelings and what you have been thinking. Talk to your family or friends. Talking solves pretty much everything. Video calls are such a boon when you talk to your favourite person and that person is living far away. Looking at that person takes away half the trouble. Isn’t it? Use technology to it’s best and connect with people you love.
This year (2020) has been particularly difficult for everybody all over the world. With no indication of how the future will look like or some consolation about things getting better, mothers world over are having had a hard time managing everything – teaching kids, managing family and home, cooking, laundry, running errands and working from home.
The next time you’re struggling with something, remember that you’re not alone.
Also read
Seven Habits Of Highly Effective Mothers
Me: The GenX Millennial Mom
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